Wedding Bells and Stories to Tell...

Before you get the wrong idea,this entry has nothing to do with my own wedding...oops,maybe I spoke too much. I kid, this has nothing to do with me getting married any time soon. Like a friend of mine half way around the world from Malaysia has said early this year and I undoubtedly agreed to,shes sworn that everyone she knows is getting married and is thus convinced,shes getting old. Note, we are both in our early twenties and have made such a statement. This comes from two young women who while admittedly, are in love with two wonderful young men find it incredibly perplexing that last year and this year everyone we know appears to be engaged or married.
In the past two months,ive actually become disenchanted by the millions of wedding sites,ads and webspaces over on the social networking site.The world celebrates a wedding best termed as : "the event of the 21st century" while they turn a blind-eye to grave catastrophies occurring within the Middle East, or the numerous spins overtaken by the climate in the United States (no pun intended). In a single day, I counted 3 people who asked the same question. "Did you watch the "royal wedding" "? To which I reply:"not really, I wasnt interested and I needed to study". Followed by that, each individual dishes out a cold stare out of confusion and slight offense. I attempt to defend my position but to much avail, everyone sees it fit that I am being "harsh", or insensitive and thus,treating the individual holding the conversation with exquisite aridness on the tip of my tongue.I beg to differ.
I have become disenchanted with the idea of all the fancy marriages, or marriage in general for several reasons. One of them being the fact that, a lot of my friends are being lost this way,where they come increasingly occupied with preparations and before you know it, theyre out the door,into a world of all-things couple-related. This appeared to occur during a time in my personal life where I really believed I needed their additional support . To my shame, none of these friends were found and the one person who stood there apart from God Himself was not female. You can say what you wish but I honestly see the healthy benefits to having friends of your gender,call it "traditional", "muslim extremist" in thinking but it serves its benefits. Dont believe me? I challenge you to try it out for a year and youd see just how much your life changes,just like mine did.
It was not long ago where I severed the male friendships in my life (yes, I had a few male friends and appreciated their presences in my life much more than females generally speaking)that occupied my being to enter into form six ( similar to the first two years of a college education for persons outside of the U.K. Malaysia, and the Caribbean). I then engaged in female friendships who edified and exhorted me in many ways possible. It was one of the most beautiful stages in my life and I thank God for those times although today,those friendships are difficult to maintain.
I shuddered at weddings for the reason that I actually became convinced that my own wouldnt happen any time soon and relished the thought that people wouldnt figure this out. So far no one has I presume. Until now. It was difficult and to an extent considering marriage and even now, it may seem somewhat dismal to think about because logically speaking, a couple of two degree holders are experiencing job attainment issues within the economic climate of the world.
"Where are you guys going to live?", "whens the wedding?" are questions that chimed in interrupting my serenity by others but not anymore.Ive resolved to deepening my trust in God throughout this waiting process. I am seeing the rewards of it,Hes teaching me so much on becoming the person He wants me to be for my soon to be partner. If you happen to be reading this because youre in the same boat, I appreciate your humanity and am praying for you too. He is faithful.

Dig Deeper:
"Let us then fearlessly and confidently and boldly draw near to the throne of grace (the throne of God's unmerited favor to us sinners), that we may receive mercy [for our failures] and find grace to help in good time for every need [appropriate help and well-timed help, coming just when we need it]. " Hebrews 4:16